Writing the first post is the hardest, right? I didn’t want it to be too serious, but my thoughts this week have been pretty serious. I’ve been thinking about adoption issues, the ethics of adoption more precisely and our role in the system as potential adoptive parents all week and I’m struggling. Why is is so much easier to adopt a new born child here in the US than say the UK? Is this reflection of the dire state of the social safety net? If we are adoptive parents what role are we playing in a system that is so definitely flawed? Green Bean and I have talked about it a little, but not enough.
I wrote earlier this week to Bobby of Those Two Daddies that Green and I were totally cool with growing our family through adoption and then after sending the email realized that wasn’t exactly the case. We are excited about growing our family and know that blood relations are not the only ties that bind families. However, I do have concerns about adoption ethics and struggle with the thought that our potential gain is probably at the expense of another person, another family. That is why open adoption is particularly of interest if we’re going to embark on this journey.
Like all big decisions you know I’m going to research the bejeezers out of this. I’m hoping we can draw on some of our friends and family who represent all members of the adoption triad, first mother, adopted child and adoptive parent to share some insight. I’m also checking out the blogosphere, oh source of all answers. Ethica, a group focused on ethical adoption that seem a level headed group among a passionate crowd. A friend, whom I’ve never met, sent me the link a blog with great insight about open adoption, This Woman’s Work, and I’ve turned to this blog for a reflective insight on more than one occasion. This topic is something I will return to, to come to terms with or not, over the next little while. I’m curious about what resources others in our situation used, and how they addressed the ethics aspect?