Holiday Madness


It is deceiving isn’t it? This perfect image. As if we’d had the most wholesome family day. Baking gingerbread, making and wrapping gifts, singing carols, potato and leek soup and watching Sound of Music (is that part of most English-speaking family’s holiday traditions?).

Bar the carols we did all of the above, but what these images don’t show you is the absolute, utter meltdown that happened this morning. The meltdown where my kid’s communication was reduced to single syllable grunts for more than half an hour, where I was hit and kicked by a most frustrated and angry toddler. I know, I know this is just part of the frustration of being two almost three, but it still stinks and we still don’t know how to deal with it. It seems to be our only option is to make sure she is safe, stay close, but not too close and wait it out. I have to say my patience is severely tried by the tantrums and the lashing out. Do the parents on the ideal family life blogs deal with such events with an even keel every time? If we had more than one would it be easier? Both seem unlikely.

Just so you don’t think all this imagery a farce, after a nice long afternoon nap, we had a fabulous time sharing our traditional soup and chili night with a few folks, watching Sound of Music and dressing our recycled tree (thanks E & family). I’m pretty excited to see her face tomorrow.




Filed under Celebrations, Navigation of Dangerous Water (Parenting)

5 responses to “Holiday Madness

  1. A long serving mum

    Maybe all the change and perhaps additional stress on parents involved in a major house make over influenced a very sensitive Bean. Bright, intelligent and much loved, everything suddenly seems to be changing in what has been a very global year.

    She will grow up to be a wonderfully placid child, because she has done all the screaming and being cross with mum (and perhaps even dad sometimes) when she was two!

    Or a genius – writer, musician or whatever, that uses the anger to create great beauty and perhaps enough to support her grandmother in dementia care in 20 years time.

    Keep positive, it all sorts out.

    • Thanks Mum.

      Isn’t there some rumor that those that are terrors as toddlers are delightful as teens? Or perhaps that is something whispered to parents of toddlers to get them through the tough times?

      • A long serving mum

        It is perhaps – like all of life – more complex. My own beautiful, wonderful children were good youngsters and happy teenagers. They survived primitive parenting, from parents in the early 60’s who knew nothing and then divorced when their children were teens. Yet both of these lovely children did well. Doesn’t this give us all hope? And there are lessons to be learnt from what at the time seemed such hard work.

        And although life takes away parts of us – our parents, grandparents, siblings and children, it leaves us with beautiful pasts. And it happens to everyone, but at least if you are young when it happens, you learn something which is difficult when you are older. And you do learn to survive.

        So perhaps we should all look forward to 2010 as a year of hope, good fun and a laugh!

  2. My only concern is that you were parents in the early 60’s which would make me a decade older than I am.

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