I had thought to take part in the Open Adoption Roundtable discussion about the impact of money in our adoption story, but frankly as we seem to be rushing between a telescope schedule (nights) and what appears to be an unrelenting pace at my work, plus the Learn-to-Knit Party we’re not getting to the actual process of adoption, specifically the homestudy paperwork.
I admit, the autobiography for the homestudy has me overwhelmed. We must write a 4-10 page autobiography that covers some of the most intimate parts of our relationships. Basically, we have to write a term paper. I hate writing term papers. I think Green may hate them more. Ask him some time about how he completed his dissertation. Guess who pulled the short straw on spearheading the effort to get this together?! Ugh. Rather than write about the impact of money on our adoption or any adoption process I’m going to put the home study autobiography task out here and set myself some public goals and share the spoils online. The spoils being my ramblings. Interested? Gone through this process yourself? Want to share? Help out?
Reaching back to the whole term paper thing, all I can think of is a couple of pieces of advice regarding writing.
1. Put it all out there, just vomit words on to the page and then edit, edit, edit
2. If you can’t think of anything just start with ridiculous stuff.
Hmm, sounds like what I do a few times a week on this blog already minus the editing bit. Maybe it won’t be that hard.
The autobiography for our home study is supposed to cover a host of information, feelings and thoughts on topics including our own families, our personal educational experiences from elementary school on, our courtship and marriage, (Why yes, they ask how we met and ‘courted’. Isn’t it sweet? So no tales of wild nights in dark seedy bars. Not that we did that Mum. Honest. ) Our jobs including areas of dissatisfaction and satisfaction, our children, adoption, community and you know, everything else about us. My challenge for this week is to get a full rough draft for one issue and start on another issue.
Primary issue for Week One of Get that Home-study paper work in: Courtship and Marriage (I just can’t resist the whole courtship thing.)
Each issue has a series of prompts, but for the sake of ease we’ll start with one:
1. Courtship and Marriage
Describe how you met and courted
What attracted you to each other
Decision to marry, how and why
Changes in your relationship after the honeymoon period
In-laws relationships and similarities/differences between families
Mutual interests as a couple and separate interests Strengths you bring to your marriage
Areas of disagreement Problems in your marriage which have been overcome, how they were worked out
How disagreements are handled
Alright. that is it for now. Back soon. Any great thoughts? Insights?